Here’s how it typically goes in my world.  Someone says to me, “That tunic  really looks pretty on you!”   Still needing to hone the skill of embracing  compliments gracefully, I reply something like, “It was on clearance.”  “It covers my fat tummy.”  “I never know what to wear.”  “It was the first thing I grabbed.”  How rude of me!  When faced with a sincere compliment, do you respond like I do and make a joke of it, or embarrassingly duck and run when a mere smile and “thank you” is all that is required?  Accepting compliments graciously is a skill that can be developed, and it is good for our minds, our bodies, and our spirits.  

Why do we so easily shun the sunshine that a sincere person is shining on us?

  1. We don’t think we deserve it.  It may actually be low self-esteem. If so, START SOMEWHERE evaluating your God-given gifts.  Stop comparing yourself with others.  
  2. We don’t want to seem conceited.  We sincerely don’t want to hold ourselves or our achievements above others.  Acknowledging something good about yourself can feel like bragging.  But, there is a difference between healthy recognition and egotism.  It honors the other person to acknowledge the compliment with a sincere “thank you!”
  3. We really just haven’t learned this skill.  This is where most of us fall.  It’s not a skill that is taught at home or anywhere else that I know of. Quite the opposite.  While humility is a character trait to be cultivated, dismissing the genuine kindness of others if false humility.  For as far back as I remember on my family tree, nobody has been good at accepting compliments graciously.

I do not pretend to have all the answers.  But, as part of my health reset, I want to get better in this area.  Join me today as we START SOMEWHERE learning to receive compliments graciously.  Here are some things that I have been pondering:

  • When someone gives you a compliment, believe them.
  • Remember that you are modeling to others how to accept a compliment with grace.  This is a common stumbling block.
  • Receive and celebrate the positive traits and special areas in your life.
  • Be aware of your reaction to a sincere compliment.  If your reaction is to reject the warm words, work on rethinking that response.  
  • Practice, practice, practice.  We are never too old to learn new tricks!

“The happiness of life is made up of minute fractions – the little, soon forgotten charities of a kiss or a smile, a kind look or heartfelt compliment.”  –Samuel Taylor Coleridge

Compliments are gifts.  We’ve all been guilty of downplaying a compliment or have given sincere compliments that have been dismissed. Let’s START SOMEWHERE accepting compliments graciously. Show appreciation for the giver of the compliment and for your own gifts.  Savor kind words.  A simple smile and a “thankyou” is all that is required.

Accepting Compliments Graciously

Accepting Compliments Graciously